a refugium is just an dedicated area of the sump that has a slower flow rate, usually sand or refugium mud and a marco algae ( im a fan of chaeto )
continue to slowly overtime remove those bio balls. you could even remove 1 a day, or 1 every other day. however you want to do it, just stretch it out over a period of time. nothing happens fast in this hobby, period. even if you go out and spend $50,000 on top of the line equipment and livestock, set it all up - it will prob. be dead the same day. everyone gets anxious but IMO waiting has its pleasures too.
an anemone is something i dont suggest for someone new to saltwater tanks. infact im not really a fan of people having one of any experience level. i was given one ( and im far from an expert by any means) and prob. would not have went out and purchased one other wise. if you want an anemone for the soul purpose of having your clown host it, please do not buy one. clown fish will host anything and everything that they feel comfortable and safe in. this means it could or could not be the nem, and rather corals, rock, ive seen clams, algae scrappers.. really it is where they feel safe. i have heard that in the wild they live 200+ years and i have also heard they are eternal, meaning they live forever. either way that is a very long time and no one has yet to keep one for this length of time. honestly these are best left to the wild or at the very least until you have a well matured tank ( about 10+ months old atleast )
ANEMONE's REQUIRE A REEF ENVIROMENT, meaning your alk, ca, mag should be at proper levels along with your other paramters. you have to keep in mind nems are inverts and all inverts are sensitive to changes of any kind ( with some more so then others ) anemones can and will walk around ANYWHERE in the tank (including glass) finding a spot that they like regardless where you put them. on their stroll they will sting/kill just about any coral it comes in contact with, i have also heard of a bubble tip getting tangled in a torch coral and getting killed by the torch. when a nem dies it has a very very high risk of "nuking" the tank, meaning it kills everything inside of it. im not intending on discouraging you from getting an anemone but rather informing you. regardless
RESEARCH BEFORE BUYING ANYTHING.
smaller chunks of silversides or mysis would be a better food choice for a nem. feeding it every 2 weeks to about a month should be alright. nems also require strong lighting, pref. metal halides but t5s will do the trick.
what kind of nem and how did you acclimate it?
alot of corals have a symbiotic relationship with an algae. the algae is photosynthetic so it takes energy from the light and grows, the coral uses this as a natural food source. some corals just cannot produce their own food this way and need to be fed. a sun coral is an example and needs daily feedings for its health, other corals can be fed on occasion depending on what it is. every one will be different, same with their lighting and flow needs.