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post #11 of 25 Old 09-07-2010, 08:10 PM Thread Starter
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I know i been reading the rainbow poem about 1 mio times by now I think

It just seems so 'unfair' to be blessed with 1 Angel while the other 1 is taken from you; forever I had it in my mind to have kids and all them & Maxx would chase around the property, that's just how its always BEEN in my dreams.....and now....its sooooo strange......
The evening are really the worst, no long active walks with him, bouncing around with all the balls, laying with my in front the TV cuddling like the love bug he just was, he's just left such a BIG GAP behind ... I have lost loved ones before but somehow it never felt this 'bad' or whatever the word may be for it.....

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post #12 of 25 Old 09-07-2010, 09:08 PM
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My heart is breaking for you Natalie. There's nothing we can say that will make you feel better right now but just know that we've all been there and we understand.

Give youself a little time to mourn and then go get yourselves a sweet doggie that needs a good home.

And congratulations on the baby.

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post #13 of 25 Old 09-07-2010, 09:09 PM
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My eyes were welling up with tears as I read this post. I too know the void of losing a beloved pet. They are a part of the family and the pain of losing a beloved pet is just as bad as losing a child. Maxx was adorable and a good companion. Just know that he is not in pain anymore and romping around in heaven. In time, you and your husband may be ready for a new companion who will not take the place of Maxx, for no dog can replace another, but rather become a new member of your family who, I am sure,, will be just as loved as Maxx was. Maybe one that can grow up with your child. Children and dogs go very good together. And congrats on the pregnancy!

Beyond the door, there's peace I'm sure. And I know there'll be no more tears in heaven.

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post #14 of 25 Old 09-07-2010, 09:15 PM
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he's just left such a BIG GAP behind ... I have lost loved ones before but somehow it never felt this 'bad' or whatever the word may be for it.....

I know what you mean. I almost feel guilty because I was more upset about losing my dog then my Grandfather but the truth is, I was closer to my dog. She slept on my bed with me every night, followed me around the house constantly. She went with me everywhere dogs were allowed and a few places that made exceptions for her. She was my constant companion, my Grandfather I saw a few times a year and didn't speak to a lot.

For me, the worst thing was the stillness in the house. I would walk in and the silence was deafening. I have more then one dog and I can still feel that stillness when one goes to the bridge. My old girl was the hardest for sure.

When I lost my girl and others would suggest getting another dog, I would get mad. It felt like they were saying "you can replace your dog" and we all know that is not true. I am the kind of person that cannot be without a dog and for that reason, I always have more then one and I do get a different dog as soon as I can breath again. You cannot replace but you can fill the void with new love. I suspect your baby will fill your heart so much it will be over flowing. I am so very happy for you that you are expecting. Congratulations!
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For me, the worst thing was the stillness in the house. I would walk in and the silence was deafening. I have more then one dog and I can still feel that stillness when one goes to the bridge. My old girl was the hardest for sure.
Exactly how I feel, I keep waking up at nights checking the end of my bed, no Maxx. Walking around all day making sure I don't trip on my lil 'stalker' no one there, so many millions things and all the sudden there's just air around me instead of Maxx and no more lil 4 Paws that cick-click-click over the hardwood all day following me, the bed under my desk here...empty too.

We also have another dog, a gal Precious she's almost 12rs old, however its always been hubby's dog, while I care for her and love her, us 2 have just never been close, her & hubby are more the laid back couch kinda people and Maxx & I would ALWAYS be outside, 4 wheeling, hiking, just ACTIVE and Precious won't fill this gap.

I think right now really I want to concentrate on my baby, get the nursery ready and all that fund stuff and really the past 2 weeks have not been the happiest for this baby's little ears and I want to change this for good.


I know one day, one day something will happen and another dog will find me; just like Maxx found me few years after my Snoopy had passed. But like I told hubby that day ain't no where near in sight and its nothing you can 'force' it will happen.
In our case; where we live MANY city dogs get dropped off when unwanted/ too many pup's etc; so I'm very sure when Maxx feels its the right time for me, and see's the "right" pup roam around he'll send this pup to my house here, that I'm sure of.

Evenings are just sooo hard, thank god I found a new book release today from my fac Author to help me over these evenings now.

On a side note: Me having 3 empty fish tanks AND my ENTIRE stock of Cherry Shrimp & Killi fish wiped out to a sickness beyond control is REALLY not helping it

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On a side note: Me having 3 empty fish tanks AND my ENTIRE stock of Cherry Shrimp & Killi fish wiped out to a sickness beyond control is REALLY not helping it
Natalie-
I have TONS of RCS and would be more than happy to send you a handful, if you want.
Just say the word.
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post #17 of 25 Old 09-08-2010, 03:27 AM
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I'm very sorry to read about this, Natalie. The unconditional love of a dog is a hard thing to lose.

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post #18 of 25 Old 09-08-2010, 11:42 AM
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well as i found out with my own dogs death natalie nothing anyone says to you will get rid of the pain .that is something you have to do within your own soul. i went through a time when i was buying all kinds of books to prove in my mind i would see samantha again in heaven. but you will be ok. good luck with your pregnancy. debbie

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post #19 of 25 Old 09-08-2010, 05:15 PM
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Natalie,

I am so sorry for your loss. I can tell from how you talk of him and by the pictures that he was a great dog with a great personality. My boys are getting up in age and I wonder often how I will be able to take their passing. But there is some comfort in thinking that you gave them the best of everything. You were a good mom to him and he had a wonderful family surrounding him. I am sure if you asked him he would not change a thing. And after his passing you will continue to enrich other lives be it humans or animals...you will see him again.

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post #20 of 25 Old 09-08-2010, 09:30 PM
I am soo sorry about Maxx! He had a great life with you and so much love!! He was a very lucky dog to have such a wonderful home. At least you have some wonderful memories of him. Congrats on your pregnancy.
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