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Old 12-16-2012, 08:57 PM   #21
 
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I have a fishkeeping friend who used to always be like this. He ignored my advice and went on and overstocked his tank. I think that after he lost almost all his fish after Sandy he's a bit more receptive to my advice now.
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Old 12-17-2012, 04:05 AM   #22
 
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i may get a new tank next year,so beware......
what's bike riding got to do with setting up a new tank by the way ?
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Old 12-17-2012, 10:52 AM   #23
 
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Another perspective to consider

I haven't ever been rude to anyone, and I always offer my advice with a caveat that I am no expert.

To be the devils advocate, I will admit it annoys me when someone with no expertise or education jumps in and says something predictable and negative like "your tank is too small; get a bigger tank" or "that fish needs at least X gallons; rehome it because you're being cruel". If someone like Byron says it to me, I will believe it because he has the education and the expertise to back it up, but if someone who has just read it on the internet says it and sponsors it as their own knowledge, especially if they say it rudely or in a condescending way, I do get annoyed. If people wanted a bigger tank, they would get one. Their question is how to let the fish they have work in the tank they have, and telling them to go spend money on a new big tank is avoiding the question.

That being said, I do hear you. It's kind of hard to tell someone their tank is overstocked in a way that is nice enough that they won't tune you out, but when that's the only answer, it's hard to resist telling them. Still, I think people should answer the question that is asked and not in a negative way tell people what they have to do.

EDITED TO ADD: Nobody has ever been rude to me on this board that I remember except someone told me I didn't know anything about lighting, and I thought that wasn't a helpful comment since I was asking a question about lighting, but otherwise, nobody has ever been ugly to me that I remember.

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Old 12-17-2012, 11:09 AM   #24
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Off topic, off topic...

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i may get a new tank next year,so beware......
what's bike riding got to do with setting up a new tank by the way ?
I used to frequent a rock climbing site, somebody there mentioned "dragging the pig up the wall". I was a newbie enough to ask "why the heck they you want to drag a pig up the wall anyway?".

I guess that was not cool. The pig is in reference to the bag of supplies that gets hauled up behind you. I suspect it may have started due to the bag originally being made of pigskin... or perhaps they used to actually drag a pig up for a snack later... not sure.

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Old 12-17-2012, 11:39 AM   #25
 
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Off topic, off topic...



I used to frequent a rock climbing site, somebody there mentioned "dragging the pig up the wall". I was a newbie enough to ask "why the heck they you want to drag a pig up the wall anyway?".

I guess that was not cool. The pig is in reference to the bag of supplies that gets hauled up behind you. I suspect it may have started due to the bag originally being made of pigskin... or perhaps they used to actually drag a pig up for a snack later... not sure.

Jeff.
OMG, until you put this I didn't know what he was talking about with the bike ride. Cycling, haha. I am dense. I blame Christmas. I thought I had missed something.
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Old 12-17-2012, 11:46 AM   #26
 
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i may get a new tank next year,so beware......
what's bike riding got to do with setting up a new tank by the way ?
Took me a while to get that. LOL.

"But my bike won't t fit!"

Oh god, this will be my first christmas as a mod...
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Old 12-17-2012, 11:53 AM   #27
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Oh god, this will be my first christmas as a mod...

Heh, heh, heh.... us newb's should make it an interesting holiday for you then.

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Old 12-17-2012, 12:26 PM   #28
 
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OMG, until you put this I didn't know what he was talking about with the bike ride. Cycling, haha. I am dense. I blame Christmas. I thought I had missed something.
i'm female.
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Old 12-17-2012, 01:08 PM   #29
 
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i'm female.
LOL. I didn't even realize you were the original poster willow. I'm multitasking, but not very well, apparently.
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Old 12-17-2012, 01:42 PM   #30
 
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lol i'm not....oooo hahahhahahahahhah i think i'm confused too
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