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post #1 of 11 Old 03-05-2011, 12:30 PM Thread Starter
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I feel so silly!

Just watched Life As We Know It starring Katherine Heigl and Josh Duhamel. It's romantic and comedic but also emotional. At the end of the movie, I leaked tears just watching it. Silly me. I'm a guy and I just get heartbroken watching films that truly reflect your life. It made me reflect my future. Finances, relationship issues, having kids... These are the things my parents reminded me that I need to be prepared for.

I'm entering the stage in my life when I need to work harder in my new job in less than two weeks ever since I graduated college in March 2010 so I can build up enough savings to support myself, my future and my dream family. My current job pays lesser and I've sincerely refused to study another course so I can earn a living of my own while building up my experiences in the outside world. I could have the luxuries just sitting on the desk all day notarizing documents after another four years of law study but I chose to work the hard way and that's what I will be entering soon. Whether that was a good decision or not, all I know is I have to believe in myself for what I ultimately chose. It took me more than a year to contemplate this and told my family I will continue working and this time, in a new job in Coca-Cola.

I know I know some would say I am still young at 21 (22 in August) to even think about everything here and I just had a breakup recently (due to many irreconcilable differences) but looking back, it seems decent to know you learn your lessons from your mistakes and learn to be more mature, expect the unexpected and embrace your future. I'm not getting any younger. All this time, I took some things for granted and it makes me appreciate more all the hard work my parents had put on me. I can see from this perspective just how difficult life gets. Sometimes, you have to stand when standing is not easy. In time, it'll be my turn to father my own family, be happy with all the work I make, and ultimately, having my own family is my goal. Seems an impossible dream? I don't think so. All I know is eventually, I'll earn the things that will make me happy when that time comes.

Just thought I'd share this. Thanks for reading.

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Just watched Life As We Know It starring Katherine Heigl and Josh Duhamel. It's romantic and comedic but also emotional. At the end of the movie, I leaked tears just watching it. Silly me. I'm a guy and I just get heartbroken watching films that truly reflect your life. It made me reflect my future. Finances, relationship issues, having kids... These are the things my parents reminded me that I need to be prepared for.

I'm entering the stage in my life when I need to work harder in my new job in less than two weeks ever since I graduated college in March 2010 so I can build up enough savings to support myself, my future and my dream family. My current job pays lesser and I've sincerely refused to study another course so I can earn a living of my own while building up my experiences in the outside world. I could have the luxuries just sitting on the desk all day notarizing documents after another four years of law study but I chose to work the hard way and that's what I will be entering soon. Whether that was a good decision or not, all I know is I have to believe in myself for what I ultimately chose. It took me more than a year to contemplate this and told my family I will continue working and this time, in a new job in Coca-Cola.

I know I know some would say I am still young at 21 (22 in August) to even think about everything here and I just had a breakup recently (due to many irreconcilable differences) but looking back, it seems decent to know you learn your lessons from your mistakes and learn to be more mature, expect the unexpected and embrace your future. I'm not getting any younger. All this time, I took some things for granted and it makes me appreciate more all the hard work my parents had put on me. I can see from this perspective just how difficult life gets. Sometimes, you have to stand when standing is not easy. In time, it'll be my turn to father my own family, be happy with all the work I make, and ultimately, having my own family is my goal. Seems an impossible dream? I don't think so. All I know is eventually, I'll earn the things that will make me happy when that time comes.

Just thought I'd share this. Thanks for reading.
Im not that far behind you.

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post #3 of 11 Old 03-05-2011, 05:59 PM
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Hey Lupin, just wanted to say good luck in your new job and whatever the future holds for you. It is good that you are reflecting on your past mistakes and looking towards your future. Knowing what you want in life and being happy with it is the key. But remember, sometimes life throws you a curveball. I find myself single after 26 years of marriage, in a fairly new job (almost 2 years actually) after being laid off from my previous job of 14 years and making barely half of what I used to make. But we have to roll with the punches and make do how we can. Just remember to keep on smiling and believe in yourself.

P.S. I'll have to look for that movie at the Redbox. Haven't seen it yet.

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Thanks, guys.

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I'm kind of at the other end, middle shall we say(?), of the career road. I'll never be rich, but I'm happy. For what it's worth, I'll share the advice I give to my own kids and my undergraduate students:

For a career, do something you enjoy. If you enjoy it, you'll be successful. There is more to life than money. Nothing is worse than waking up everyday to go to a job you hate just to have more stuff, stuff that you really don't need to be happy.
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Jeaninel and DKRST couldn't have stated the truth more plainly. You know the old saying, "Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans"? Don't plan your life away, Lupin. You need to enjoy it too!

If you don't stand up for something you'll fall for anything...
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Jeaninel and DKRST couldn't have stated the truth more plainly. You know the old saying, "Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans"? Don't plan your life away, Lupin. You need to enjoy it too!
AMEN ! The best parts are always a surprise...
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"Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans"
I love this! So true. lol

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post #9 of 11 Old 03-06-2011, 03:48 AM
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i totally agree in all that's been said,especially about being in a job you like.
i've been doing mine for 10 years now,and i've grown to dislike it for a number of resons.
money is a blessing and a curse !

when you set up a new tank,hide an extra
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I to agree with what everyone else has said so far. I was stuck in a job I hated but made decent money at and hated getting up everyday to go to work. Then I get the job I have now that I enjoy doing even though I make less and I hurt my back so I am not sure if I will be able to continue doing it but I know what ever happens I will be ok. There are two sayings in life that I believe are really true. One is when life gives you lemons make lemonade and the other is, don't worry your life away if you can fix a problem, then fix it. If you can't worrying about it is not going to help. Good luck in life you sound like an intelligent young man that has already learned that money does not always mean happiness.

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