If these are your first rats, I'd probably go with boys. I love my girls dearly, but my boys were much easier to deal with. They just plopped down on my chest for a snuggle and a snooze. My girls will spend our cuddle-time wrestling inside my shirt.
Personally, I don't enjoy rat forums. :( I have tried a couple, and several facebook groups, and found them all to be quite judgemental and clique-y. I'm sorry I can't help with that - I wish there was an equivalent of bettafish.com for rats!
If you need any advice/information/someone to share adorable pictures with, I'm happy to help. :)
hi! i just saw your post on some thread and saw that you have rats! i really want to get two but making my mind up on the gender i want is really tough. lol.. im also holding up on getting them because im hoping i can get a majority of their stuff on black friday.. ANYWAYS, i was wondering if you could point me to any good rat forums? i tried to sign up onto the ratforum and was never excepted.. thanks!