so the tank is cycled and heres whats going on, so what i thought was a female is actually a male the bigger ram bullies the smaller one, i split the tank in half to rehabilitate the smaller ram because he had beautiful color when i first got him he was in a 37 gal bow front. so anyways both look brighter since i split them occasionally they ram each other through the divider but no harm is done they seem to like it. the smaller one hasn't been eating food so i am fasting both of them until tomorrow and ill feed them frozen bloodworms. i think its because he is still stressed from the water change and the bigger ram but these are slow fish so gotta be patient.
i did a nitrate test and its only 10ppm. so basically they seem to be getter brighter and look less stressed. im in the process of getting a separate 10 gallon for the smaller one or breed guppies and feed the fry to the rams.