ok taz, my tank is in code red again
BABIES
1) my acei female gave birth AGAIN yesterday. is there any sort of birth control for these things? so, we scooped her out and put her in our other 10g tank with the month old fry for her to spit out the newborn fry. then, we left her in there overnight to spit them all night, and i moved her in the 55g this morning. now, she is resting on the bottom of the tank taking really big breaths. she is also very darkly colored. is she ok? in the process of catching the holding female, i sort of rearranged the rocks to catch her, which leads me to my next problem:
STRESS
2) So, my fish are freaking out about this mayhem and hiding in other spots. it was really late last night when i rearranged stuff, so i put some of the rocks back, but in different places. when i woke up this morning, i noticed the dominant male in my tank, is almost completely pale, and half of his head is pitch black!

he looks kind of like two face from batman. i learned that these are stress marks. in fact, i think that all of my fish had one or two small dots on the underside of their mouths, but i also assumed this was part of their coloration. how do i make them go away? and now, my final problem:
FRY
3) putting newborns in with month old fry was a mistake. the bigger ones are taking all the food. i wanted to relieve the mother of her babies, and this was the only thing i had. now, i have found a small breeder box in my closet, but i have no way of separating the newborns from the big fry. also, the big ones are eating all the food, and i have a feeling the newborn fry are starving. i was actually wanting the parents to take care of this new batch, but the other fish kept bullying the mom and eating the fry that she "coughed" up. it was pretty brutal. now, what can i do?
sorry for the long post. there's just so many things going on in my head.

please respond ASAP.
Thanks!