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What do we really need?

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Old 01-05-2013, 03:18 PM   #141
 
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I'm so sorry to hear that :(

I know how it can feel. When I first started mine I got so frustrated sometimes, and kept thinking about scrapping it and throwing in the towel. Especially my first few water changes, I just got so irritated and upset.

I've learned to just take a minute to breathe, and go slowly. Work out the problems and don't freak out if something goes awry. I'm sure that in the beginning I was slopping about a gallon of water on the floor each WC, now after a few months I can do my 35% WC in about twenty minutes - filling time included. Now it's fun for me, because I've figured out how to always get the tube going without fishy water in my mouth (bleh!), and watching the Harlequin Rasboras play in the new water flow.

I know at the beginning waiting for the tank to cycle is really hard. There is always going to be a problem or something happening. I learned not to freak out at every problem and to just handle them as the cropped up without worrying to badly.

I hope it works out. If you end up selling the tank or not, I hope you had a least a little positive experience to look back on :)
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Old 01-05-2013, 04:30 PM   #142
 
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Enjoy your fishy experience, a 20gal tank is a good size for a beginner, relatively easy to maintain and there are a lots of nice sized colorful community fish you can buy, look at the guide on this site, then do some research on the fish that you fancy,
flip on to youtube and you can see may many aquariums with your choice of fish or search for 20gal community tank and you will see established tanks that will give you ideas of what your tank could look like.
Once you have made a choice get back on here where there are many people with many different types of fish to help you.
So for the moment just do your research, your tank can wait until you are ready to go,
it is so easy to make mistakes now,,,but regret it later when either your fish die or are in unsuitable conditions.
When you are ready to start we will talk you through your new experience.
You have power what fish go in a tank,,,but the fish have the power to what happens inside the tank.
Get it right first time
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Old 01-05-2013, 04:50 PM   #143
 
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Ahh fishybusiness I'm sad to hear this! All i can say is dont give up yet! The first few weeks are the hardest bit, getting your tank to cycle, and playing the patient waiting game with it. Once it all settles things will be easier! No one will sugar coat it here for you here, there will always be the chance of problems, sick fish etc, but if you look after them like i know you will from this thread your problems should hopefully be minimal through their lifetime! Though we never know....

Don't throw the stick in just yet, take it and swing it round your husbands bum! Force him to learn too how to water change etc and have him help out - or you refuse to cook for him etc - he'll soon get the point! trust me i know!
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Old 01-05-2013, 05:02 PM   #144
 
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Don't let it all get you down hun! That 1st month is a doozie! But it gets better.

You can always keep the tank understocked and just have Mr. Fish in there. Later on, you can add some other fish when you get more experence.

I would go with the Kulii Loaches later on. They tank frozen or fresh food, but boy are they cute!

If you decide that you just want some low mantenence additions, you can add some Cherry or Ghost Shrimp. They are little acrobats and lots of fun to watch. Low bioload, so no worries about them putting a burden on your tank. I would also add some Mystery Snails if you don't get Loaches because they are much more fun than they sound and they keep my glass perfectly clear!
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Old 01-05-2013, 05:09 PM   #145
 
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The first few weeks can be extremely frustrating, especially for people just entering the hobby. Once your tank is established though, all you'll have to do is daily feeding and weekly water changes. Don't throw in the towel yet!
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Old 01-06-2013, 05:39 PM   #146
 
So I just wanted to give an update. I'm really sorry to dissapoint everyone who's helped me with this but my husband has come to his senses and will be giving the tank away. Lots of wasted money (and time) down the drain but he came to the realization that taking care of a tank and learning about it isn't something he wants to do. SMH. Thank you again to everyone!
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Old 01-06-2013, 05:43 PM   #147
 
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So sorry to hear that! Maybe sometime later down the road you guys might feel like giving it another shot? I understand though, it's not for everyone and you were forced in to it. I'm glad you gave it your best though.

Have you found someone who wants the tank?
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Old 01-06-2013, 05:45 PM   #148
 
Yeah... I tried. Just not something I am ready for and he just liked the idea of having a tank, not the work. I'm so relieved.

A family member is going to take it.
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Old 01-06-2013, 05:59 PM   #149
 
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Jennifer! Look at you trying to snag that tank already!

I'm really sad to hear this fishy! I think you would have made a great fish keeper, and I hope one day you will. I can't blame you though, having it forced upon you and then not getting any help at home with it.

And I hope you recommend us to your family member And be sure to pass on what you've learnt

All the best
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Old 01-06-2013, 08:23 PM   #150
 
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I wish I lived closer! I would have taken him in a New York minute

I am sad you gave up though. Most do. It's something you either love or you don't. Most of us never planned to be fishkeepers. It kind of just happens. I'm glad you gave it a shot though
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